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Genuine happiness, is it possible or just a cruel illusion?
« on: December 22, 2012, 10:28:28 AM »
Tue 13 Nov 2012, 7:15 am

Good Morning, All,

Sort of a judgment call deciding which board to post this in.  Another one might have been more appropriate.  We have been discussing whether or not it is really possible to be “genuinely happy” and what REBT  http://rebtinfo.info/ has to say about happiness. A reader shares this quote from the Dalai Lama

"Achieving genuine happiness may require bringing about a transformation in  your
outlook, your way of thinking, and this is not a simple matter."

His Holiness is being just a tad bland or casual, I think, in saying that genuine happiness is not a "simple matter." I am in no position to speak for him, but I am sure he knows better than any that the sort of "genuine happiness" (I prefer the term "persistent happiness") that can be measured in the EEG of some  monks from Zen and other Buddhist traditions takes decades of devoted meditation and other practices, surrounded and assisted by a community of people  who support one another along the path.  Very few are up for that sort of commitment or lifestyle.

That is not to say that it takes decades of practicing Zen and other meditation to experience any benefits at all, nor that the average Joe Sixpack has nothing to learn from such traditions, nor that science will not come up with technologies (such as neurofeedback) which accelerate the process.   However, it is to say, in my opinion, that "happiness as a steady state" is probably doomed to be a frustrating and disappointing distraction for the average person.

Finding  more things to enjoy, and more ways to enjoy them--as advocated by REBT--seems to me to be more practical and obtainable.


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